Do You Feel That You Are Deserving Of All That You Do In Business?

Guest Post :: So many of my clients and other people I speak to have a real problem with feeling worthy and deserving in managing businesses. Most of the time it is those people who do not know how to receive and tend to overgive. It is about major caretakers — and in particular, parents — that feel it is their job to be responsible for most things in their lives. Many times it is those people who were raised by strong parents who had extreme exectations of them, or parents who never gave them the personal attention that they needed.

My experience has been with clients who tend to overdo with pleasing others. They hope that they will get the approval or love that they did not receive from their parents. They believe they can change the script and finally get the love they need. After awhile they begin to slowly resent that they are not receiving the love or caring that they need or want.

I tell them, “You can never please anyone enough!” In fact, once you are the only one to give, your mate, your friends, and your business associates do not believe you need anything. Overgiving eventually becomes painful and can cause low self-esteem. Nothing is wrong with healthy giving, and you tend to get back what you deserve.

I work very hard to help my clients to understand that one cannot feel worthy or deserving if they do not receive the love they need. Strong people who are managing businesses tend to believe they need to save someone who has problems that they can fix. We cannot save someone enough. Those people who are managing businesses tend to take advantage of those who want to save them. In fact, the relationship can fall apart because in a healthy relationship there needs to be giving and receiving.

I teach living your truth to my clients and I believe I could not be a good example if I didn’t live my truth. Once individuals live their truth, they can feel good about themselves. Once individuals live a lie, whether they are afraid to tell the truth, or do not want to start a fight, or cause chaos, they cannot feel good about themselves.

Some of my clients tell me that they don’t lie, they just omit. I respond with, “Omission is a lie.” If you want to live a healthy life, whether it is in a managing businesses situation, a personal relationship, or a marriage, you cannot lie. Remember, it’s usually because you do not believe in yourself! Feeling worthy and deserving can be your choice, and can build a better in managing businesses, if you learn to receive and ask for what you want!

Sylvia Friedman is a motivational speaker, life coach, and author of The Stars In Your Family, which is available on the Kindle. She has over 25 years experience as an Astrologer and Handwriting Analyst and she has helped thousands of people resolve their issues using the tools from her educational programs. You can find out more about her and the programs that she offers over here.